Reclaiming Your Divine Feminine Power After Betrayal and How Venus Retrograde Can Assist

Betrayal shakes the very foundation of who we are. Whether it’s a partner’s infidelity, a broken trust, or abandonment, it has a way of cutting so deep that we question everything—our worth, our intuition, our ability to love and be loved. I know this because I’ve lived it. In 2020, after 30 years, my husband left me and our family for his affair partner. That moment shattered me, but it also cracked me open. And through that opening, I discovered something unexpected: my divine feminine power.

When a moment of intense pain or heartbreak happens, it can feel like everything is falling apart. A betrayal or major loss might feel like it's shattering you into pieces. But in that very process of being broken open, something incredible can also happen. In the cracks, where the hurt and vulnerability exist, there’s space for growth and transformation.

This is where divine feminine power comes in. It's not about perfection, but about embracing our inner strength, intuition, creativity, and the nurturing aspects of yourself. It’s often through the most difficult experiences that we tap into a deeper, more authentic version of ourselves. So while the moment initially shatters us, it also gives us the opportunity to reconnect with a powerful force within ourselves that was always there, waiting to emerge.

Though painful, such experiences can be gateways to discovering the divine feminine—your authentic power, wisdom, and resilience—ready to guide you toward healing and fulfillment.

For a long time, I tried to fit into a mold of what society or others expected from a "feminine" woman. I believed that being nurturing, sweet, and soft was the only way to be loved, respected, or accepted, so I pushed down my true power in favor of this image.

However, over time, I realized that this didn’t feel right—it was like I was living in someone else’s version of me. Suppressing my inner strength, assertiveness, and boldness wasn’t leading to fulfillment; in fact, it left me feeling stifled and disconnected from my true self. So I let authentic me out to play!

When I stopped trying to suppress those aspects of myself - when I stopped pretending to be something I am not - I discovered that embracing the full spectrum of my feminine energy was the key to feeling whole.

The divine feminine is not just about softness; it’s about power, intuition, creativity, and resilience. Being nurturing and sweet is part of it, but it's only one piece of the puzzle. By allowing ourselves to fully express all of who we are, we tap into a deeper, more authentic version of our power, and that was the real magic of stepping into my divine feminine.

And here’s the truth—when a woman reclaims her divine feminine after betrayal or at any time, she doesn’t just heal. She rises.

Now, with Venus entering retrograde, this energy is coming up again, stirring the pot of old wounds, unresolved grief, and hidden strength waiting to emerge. But does Venus retrograde really accelerate healing, or is that just spiritual hype? And if it doesn’t align perfectly, how do we still step into this reclamation of power when Venus is moving direct? Let’s talk about it.

Venus Retrograde & the Call to Reclaim Your Power

Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and self-worth, rules over our relationships—not just romantic ones, but the relationship we have with ourselves and others. When Venus goes retrograde, it asks us to reassess these connections. It brings past wounds to the surface and demands that we face them head-on. If you’ve been betrayed, this retrograde period might feel like the universe is pressing on a bruise you thought had healed.

This is also a time for reassessing everything—not just romantic partnerships, but friendships, family relationships, business dynamics, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself. During Venus retrograde (and even its shadow period, which many of us have already been feeling), old wounds resurface. Patterns we thought we had healed may be triggered again, not to punish us, but to show us where we still need to claim our power.

In these past few days leading up to Venus going retrograde, in it's shadow, many of my old wounds have been triggered and brought to the surface. I was actually a bit surprised because I have been working on the particular ones that popped up, to realize in at least once incidence the wound was still fairly fresh threw me a bit of a curve ball. But, I took the time to really reflect on what took place and how I would handle it this time. It was like I finally got a do-over for all the times I was unable to use my voice, and it felt great!

Does this mean healing is easier during Venus retrograde? Not necessarily. But it does mean that you’ll have cosmic support in uncovering truths, severing toxic ties, and redefining what love, self-worth, and power mean for you.

This is a time of review, a time to ask:

• Where have I given my power away?

• How have betrayal and past wounds shaped my self-perception, and what am I ready to rewrite?

• Am I still carrying beliefs that keep me in pain?

• What parts of myself have I silenced in the name of acceptance from others?

• Which relationships—romantic or otherwise—need to be rebalanced, healed, or released?

Venus retrograde helps us see where we’ve been conditioned to play small, to prioritize others over ourselves, to accept crumbs instead of demanding the feast. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. That’s where the real transformation begins.

Is This a Time to Self-Isolate and Reflect?

Absolutely. Venus retrograde naturally stirs up emotions, making it an ideal period for self-isolation—not in a lonely way, but as a sacred act of self-preservation and deep reflection. If you feel called to withdraw, honor that instinct.

Self-isolation during this time isn’t about shutting the world out; it’s about becoming more intentional with your energy. You might:

• Limit social interactions that feel draining or force you to “perform” wellness.

• Spend more time journaling, meditating, or doing shadow work.

• Avoid rushing into new relationships or commitments.

• Reevaluate boundaries in all relationships, not just romantic ones.

If you’ve been feeling old wounds resurfacing, this could be your inner wisdom nudging you to sit with them, not push them away. Trust that this time of introspection is not about loneliness—it’s about deep reconnection with yourself.

Reclaiming Your Divine Feminine—With or Without Venus Retrograde

Healing after betrayal isn’t just about moving on—it’s about stepping into a version of yourself that you may not have even met yet. It’s about reclaiming the parts of you that were lost, suppressed, or buried in the name of being a "good wife" or "good partner."

Here’s how to begin this reclamation, whether Venus is in retrograde or not:

1. Rewrite Your Love Story (The One You Have With Yourself)

Betrayal has a way of making us question our worth. The divine feminine knows her value is innate, but years of conditioning may have disconnected you from this truth. To reclaim your power, rewrite the story you tell yourself about love, relationships, and your own worth.

Try this: Write a letter from your higher self to the part of you that was betrayed. Let her know she is still whole. Let her know she is not defined by what someone else did. And most importantly, let her know that her love is a gift, not something that can be stolen.

2. Reconnect With Your Sacred Rage

The divine feminine is not just soft and nurturing—she is also fierce. When betrayed, many of us suppress our anger because we’ve been taught that an “angry woman” is undesirable. But sacred rage is fuel. It is a force that, when harnessed, can be used for transformation.

Try this: Set aside time to channel your rage in a way that empowers rather than depletes you. Scream into a pillow. Write an unsent letter. Take up a martial art. Let the fire move through you instead of turning inward and burning you from the inside out.

3. Reclaim Your Intuition

Betrayal often makes us doubt our own instincts. How did I not see this coming? Why did I ignore the signs? But the truth is, your intuition was never wrong—it was likely overridden by conditioning or a desire to believe in love. Reconnecting with your intuition is a crucial step in reclaiming your feminine power.

Try this: Start small. Practice listening to your gut in daily decisions. Hold an object and try to sense its energy. Journal on the times your intuition was right, even if you ignored it. Strengthening this connection builds trust in yourself, which is the ultimate power.

4. Embody the Divine Feminine Through Creation

One of the most potent ways to step back into your divine feminine is through creation. This doesn’t have to mean art in the traditional sense. It means creating anything—a new way of living, a project that lights you up, a personal ritual, even a new identity for yourself post-betrayal.

Try this: Choose one thing to create that symbolizes your rebirth. A vision board of your next chapter. A piece of writing about the woman you are becoming. A new business venture. Creation is power.

This Is Not Just Healing—It’s a Revolution

Reclaiming your divine feminine power after betrayal isn’t just about healing; it’s about rewriting the rules. It’s about refusing to let someone else’s choices define your worth. It’s about understanding that while pain may have been the catalyst, you decide what comes next.

Venus retrograde may amplify this journey, but the divine feminine is eternal, cyclical, and ever-present. She is waiting for you—whether the stars are aligned or not.

And trust me, when you reclaim her, you become the force that shifts the cosmos, not the other way around.