Manifesting Isn’t Working? It’s Not You, It’s Your Inner Blocks
- Nov 22
- 6 min read
You’ve been trying. Really trying. Vision boards, affirmations, journaling, endless ‘positive thinking’ and yet… nothing seems to stick. Nothing seems to manifest. You start to wonder:
Am I doing it wrong? Is there something wrong with me?
It’s not your fault.
Why It’s Not Your Fault and Industry Gaslighting
If your manifestations aren’t showing up yet, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong, not thinking positively enough, or somehow failing at life. It’s because deep down, somewhere inside, a part of you doesn’t fully believe you deserve it. You can’t call in something you don’t believe you’re worthy of.
I know that’s not what the manifesting industry wants you to hear. They’ll tell you that if your life isn’t “perfect” yet, it’s because you’re not positive enough, not grateful enough, not affirming enough, or not detached enough. They’ll lead you to believe it’s all on you.
Sound familiar? That’s emotional and spiritual gaslighting disguised as advice.
I’m not saying this is done on purpose, most likely this is what they were taught — by people who were taught the same thing, and so-on and so-on. The end result is still the same though. It’s shaming you for their lack of understating YOU. It makes you doubt yourself, blame yourself, and chase the illusion that you’re failing. And while you’re busy trying to perfectly deploy their advice, your manifestations stall.
Your manifestations aren’t failing because of a lack of positivity or skill. They’re blocked by invisible barriers like unresolved trauma and deep-seated beliefs about worthiness. You can’t call in something you don’t truly believe you deserve.
That’s not a character flaw — it’s unresolved trauma.
Why Your Beliefs Matter
Manifesting isn’t magic. It’s energy, alignment, and resonance. But if trauma, conditioning, or old wounds are still holding space in your subconscious, they’re creating invisible blocks. They whisper things like:
“You don’t deserve this.”
“If you try for this, it will fail.”
“Wanting more is selfish.”
These messages aren’t from the universe. They’re from your past experiences, your upbringing, the world around you that taught you to shrink. Until those messages are healed or released, they act like a filter, preventing what you truly want from showing up.
It’s not about forcing your reality with sheer willpower. It’s about creating a healed, sovereign space inside yourself where your energy, your beliefs, and your actions align. And if you’ve been carrying trauma, conditioning, or societal pressure, well… it’s like trying to water a plant through a clogged hose. Nothing’s flowing.
Most women are taught to suppress parts of themselves from the time they’re little. Be nice. Don’t take up too much space. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t want too much or you’ll be “greedy” or “selfish.”
Then, as adults, we inherit all this cultural messaging: be responsible for everyone else, earn your worth, and if you fail, it’s your fault.
No wonder manifesting feels impossible. You’re trying to attract abundance while carrying decades of conditioning that tells you you’re not enough and you don’t deserve this.. You’re trying to align with your dreams while parts of you are still in survival mode.
If you take one single thing from this blog, please let it be this;
Until you begin to work on healing, you will never manifest your dreams or achieve your goals. Because you won’t be able to sustain the actions required to achieve them when they are in direct conflict with your foundational beliefs about yourself or the very thing you’re trying to manifest.
Here’s what I mean.
If you’re trying to manifest money but you grew up in a home where wealthy people called stuck-up, selfish, or “they think they’re better than everyone else,” I can almost guarantee that you internalized those ideas. You might not consciously agree with those sentiments, but I’ll bet deep down you’re worried that if you come into financial wealth, the people you love will begin to say those things about you. In other words, staying within the same financial limits as your family or friends keeps you ‘safe’ and preserves their love for you.
Maybe you’re struggling to lose weight. Diet after diet, you start out strong then in a few weeks aren’t even trying anymore. You beat yourself up by telling yourself you’ll never be able to lose the weight. What you’re most likely not thinking about is the deep-down shame you hold because from a young age you heard you are fat and you’ll always be fat. You might have been bullied by other kids, or even the adults in your life. Maybe you’ve even lost weight at some point but gained it back only to start agreeing with those voices from your past.
So you see, if fundamentally, deep down your internal beliefs about your goal contradicts the goal itself, the actions you need to take to get there are unsustainable.
And yet, the industry tells you: just think positive, visualize harder, manifest harder.
Meanwhile, it rarely addresses the very real blocks that trauma and conditioning create.
Healing Before Manifesting
So, what actually works?
Start with healing, not hustling.
Instead of forcing outcomes, spend time with yourself. Identify what’s really holding you back. That may mean shadow work, inner child healing, therapy, journaling — whatever helps you uncover the buried beliefs that sabotage you.
Acknowledge the blocks.
Start noticing where fear, self-doubt, and unworthiness show up in your thoughts and feelings. Journaling, therapy, shadow work, or inner child healing are powerful tools here.
Heal the wounds.
Healing doesn’t mean everything disappears overnight. It means you face the parts of yourself that have been pushed aside, neglected, or hurt. It means you give yourself permission to feel, process, and release.
Reconnect with your worthiness.
Manifestation isn’t about forcing the universe to give you what you want, it’s about aligning with the reality you already deserve it. Work on believing in your worth, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. You deserve abundance, love, success, and joy. Not because you ‘earned’ it, but because you exist.
Reclaim your sovereignty.
Sovereignty isn’t a buzzword; it’s your power to make choices aligned with your true self. It’s not about controlling the universe; it’s about controlling your energy, your boundaries, and your decisions. When you reclaim your sovereignty, manifestation flows because your energy is no longer leaking in directions you didn’t consciously choose.
Align your energy and action.
Manifestation isn’t magic, it’s physics. Your thoughts, emotions, and actions create a resonance that attracts similar energy. But here’s the catch: if trauma or fear is running the show, your energy is scattered. Healing brings clarity. Sovereignty brings focus. And focused energy + inspired action? That’s the real manifesting formula.
Be patient with yourself.
Healing and alignment take time. If you’re used to hustle culture, this might feel slow. But slow is actually faster in the long run. When your foundation is solid, what you manifest sticks.
Your Manifestation Is Waiting
Here’s the takeaway — and I’ll say it again: it’s not your fault. You’ve been sold a lie that makes you question yourself while ignoring the real work; healing trauma, reclaiming worthiness, and stepping into sovereignty. Once you begin that work, manifesting stops being a struggle and starts being a reflection of the life you’ve always deserved.
Your manifestations aren’t failing because of lack of effort or lack of positivity. They’re waiting for you to believe you can have them.
Once you begin the work on yourself, manifesting starts to become effortless. You stop chasing, stop overthinking, stop blaming yourself for “not doing enough.” Instead, you start living in alignment, and suddenly, doors open, people show up, and opportunities flow in ways you couldn’t have planned. Maybe in small ways at first, take that as your confirmation you are on the right track.
So, if manifesting isn’t working for you yet, it’s not because you’re failing. It’s because your inner foundation needs care, attention, and sovereignty. When you give yourself that, the universe, and your life, finally catches up.
And one more thing before I go: you deserve to manifest. Not when you’re perfect, not when you’ve “earned it,” not because you put in 10,000 affirmations, but simply because you exist. You deserve the life you dream of. You deserve it unapologetically.
Take a breath. Start small. Heal. Reclaim yourself. And watch how your reality begins to follow.
Because you are worthy. And no industry mantra will ever change that.
You don’t need to heal alone. Step into the sacred circle, our Skool community and surround yourself with women just like you. Women get it—real talk, real growth, and some fun along the way. Share your wins, vent your frustrations, ask the questions no one else will answer, and celebrate breakthroughs together. This is a space to reclaim your power, speak your truth, and finally be with people who actually understand the journey.
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