You Don’t Need a Permission Slip from God, the Universe, or Your Parents
- Jul 6
- 6 min read
I didn’t ask God. I didn’t wait for a sign. I didn’t need anyone else to co-sign what I already felt in my bones. I just knew.
That moment — the one where everything shifted — I didn’t pray on it. I didn’t light a candle or consult a deck. I didn’t sit in stillness asking the universe to whisper in my ear with clear instructions. I moved. And guess what? It wasn’t reckless. It wasn’t "low vibe." It was real. It was raw. It was mine.
I was 16 years old when I met my ex-husband. We met at a party, and it truly was one of those cliche 'eyes locked’ moments and I knew he was my future. It didn’t come without challenges — he was older than me — but being my head-strong and cocky 16-year-old self, I stood my ground and claimed what I wanted.
When parents and parental figures questioned the age gap and suggested I shouldn’t date him, I simply told them that I could be upfront about it and date him with their blessing, or I could sneak around behind their backs, but either way, he was part of my future. See? Head-strong and cocky.
And he was my future at that time, 30 years of it actually. While the marriage ultimately crashed and burned, there were decades of amazing experiences, fun, love, growth, and grief that we held one another through. Things were great — until they weren’t — but how the marriage ended doesn’t erase all the good stuff we shared.
I didn’t ask for permission from anyone. I manifested him out of sheer desire to have him because at that time I knew nothing about divine timing, my highest good, free-will, or the phrase ‘or something better’. I just wanted what I wanted.
I’ve spent a lot of time in the past five years questioning and distrusting my intuition. This story I just shared with you came up while I was working on that block and writing down all the times I followed my intuition with tremendous results. In fact, and this is going to sound hypocritical given my teachings, I would suggest that I didn’t start doubting my intuition until I delved into spirituality.
Stay with me, I’ll make that make sense – I promise.
Stop Outsourcing Your Inner Knowing
We’ve been taught — directly and subtly — to doubt ourselves. To defer to ‘the signs.’ To wait for a door to open. To ask for clarity until we’re damn near paralyzed. All under the illusion that this is what it means to be spiritual or intentional.
But honestly? Sometimes ‘waiting on divine timing’ is just fear in disguise. Sometimes ‘I’m waiting for alignment’ really means ‘I’m afraid of what might happen if I claim what I want.’
Fear of rejection, fear of vulnerability, fear of failure. Hell, some of us (ahem, my hand is raised) are afraid we might actually pull it off.
You Don’t Need to Be Fully Healed to Move
You don’t need to ‘fix’ your nervous system first. You don’t need to be dripping in goddess energy. You don’t need every single chakra humming in harmony before you act. You need one thing: trust in your own knowing.
That whisper that won’t shut up. That desire that won’t go away. That gut instinct that keeps tugging on your sleeve even when your logic tries to hush it. That’s your permission slip. That’s your map. Not someone else’s timeline. Not another person’s approval.
While I believe we as humans should always be healing, learning, and evolving, don’t you dare let anyone gaslight you into believing you need to ‘fix’ yourself so you’ll be worthy of having that thing you want. Every single one of us was born worthy.
When Manifesting Becomes a Stall Tactic
Manifesting, at its core, is powerful. But what so many women are doing isn’t manifesting, it’s stalling with glitter on it. Waiting for the stars to align. Waiting for the universe to hand it to them on a silver platter. Waiting until the fear goes away, the outcome feels guaranteed, or a ‘sign’ appears in triplicate.
Don’t get me wrong, I love asking for and receiving signs. It keeps me motivated.
But manifesting isn’t passive. It isn’t waiting for permission. It’s co-creation, and co-creation requires movement. That first movement is the moment when you declare what it is that you want. The next movement is getting into alignment with your desire. Notice I didn’t say ‘waiting for alignment’, rather getting into alignment.
This can be achieved many ways; visualization techniques, affirmations, the 3-6-9 method, and so many more. Choose which one works best for you because it isn’t about the technique, it’s about the flow state you’re in while doing the technique.
You’re thinking, feeling, and fantasizing about your desire and that’s all that needed. Notice in your body where you’re feeling it. In your heart, your stomach, in your womb? This is you being in alignment with what it is you’re manifesting and you’re magnetizing it towards you.
Divine Timing Isn’t Always Comfortable
Let’s talk about ‘divine timing’. It isn’t always slow. It’s not always gentle. It’s not always wrapped in signs and synchronicities. Sometimes divine timing looks like a door slamming in your face. Sometimes it looks like things falling apart now so the foundation can be stronger when it does come together.
And sometimes? It looks like that wild impulse to do the thing, say the truth, take the leap before it makes sense to anyone else. Don’t confuse ‘divine timing’ with ‘delaying your life.’
If I’m the creator of my reality, then who or what exactly is ‘divine timing’ waiting on?
Because if it’s me doing the manifesting, shifting, creating, and aligning…
Why would I need to wait for some external divine force to greenlight what I’m ready to experience?
Divine timing can be true but not as some external force that either allows or denies. It’s not like the universe is going, “Nah, babe, not yet. Come back in six months.”
Instead, it might just be a mirror — a reflection of when your internal world and your external world fully meet. When you are:
Energetically aligned with the thing,
Emotionally resourced to handle the outcome,
Mentally out of your own damn way.
Sometimes things don’t come together until you’re actually able to hold them. Not because you weren’t worthy, but because you hadn’t yet claimed your power, healed something vital, or made a key decision.
So no, you’re not waiting on the universe. The universe is reflecting when you’ve fully lined up with the experience you're calling in. Let’s call it ‘aligned timing’ instead.
If we’re being honest? A lot of people use ‘divine timing’ the same way they use ‘God’s will’ — to spiritually bypass fear, delay action, or excuse stagnation.
You Are Allowed to Want What You Want
You don’t need to prove your desires are holy or somehow benefit the collective. You don’t need to justify your timing to your mom, your coach, or your higher self. You don’t need to wait until it’s ‘safe,’ socially acceptable, or part of a five-year plan that fits neatly on a Pinterest board.
Being told to wrap up all your declarations with ‘or something better’ is literally demanding that you gaslight yourself into questioning if your desire is even valid, or whether you’re allowed to trust it in the first place.
Wanting more is enough. Feeling called is enough. Being ready — even if no one else understands — is enough.
Your Soul Is Not a Group Project
You’re not here to live someone else’s idea of alignment. You’re not here to perform patience while your spirit is begging you to MOVE. You’re here to live, love, lead, fuck up, try again, and trust yourself through it.
Let this be the moment you stop outsourcing your sovereignty to the divine. The universe is not your helicopter parent. She’s not keeping you in holding until you behave well enough to receive. She’s watching to see if you’ll remember who the hell you are.
So Here It Is:
If you’re waiting for someone to say, “It’s okay to go. It’s okay to want more. It’s okay to not explain your shift. It’s okay to act on instinct, not strategy” — let me be the one to say it:
You don’t need a permission slip.
You are the permission.
And this? This is your sign.
Now go get the damn thing.
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